Bono, the lead singer and worldwide icon, still hasn’t found what he’s looking for.
But you can. I think.
A few days ago I was visiting with a father. His son is a punk. He’s lazy and useless. He is immature and has no sense. So says daddy.
I kinda’ like the kid, but daddy has a different impression. Now, daddy’s impression might be more accurate than mine, but I’m going to take a chapter out of Top Performance by Zig Ziglar and decide instead to look for the good in people.
My kids aren’t perfect, but if I spend as much time looking for good as I do for bad, I’m sure I’ll find it.
Yesterday, my wife and I were playing badminton in our yard, and our five year old daughter carried down a glass of water for each of us. The night before she shot an elastic type toy right into her brother’s eye. There is within all of my children goodness as well as immaturity and a lack of wisdom. As a parent, I can recognize both of those things, but I want to draw out the goodness by looking for it and affirming it. My wife is really good at this, and I’m learning from watching her.
In Top Performance, Ziglar talks about how two people can visit the exact same place; one person shares all the problems associated with that place, and the other discusses all the good.
Ziglar encourages people to be “goodfinders”.
I’m thankful it’s Thanksgiving (YOUR Thanksgiving because I already had MY Thanksgiving back in October [I’m Canadian]). It forces us picky party poopers to turn into goodfinders for at least a day. I tend to be a little too critical, and as a result, I can find flaws you never imagined. I’m the master flaw finder. However, I’m working (by the grace of God) on turning into a goodfinder.
I’ve implemented a policy – if you don’t have anything good to say, don’t say anything at all. I wonder if that phrase will catch on.
Last week I was having a Bible study with a young girl who comes from a terrible family background. Or should I say TERRIBLE. I gave her some homework this week. When you wake up, think about five good things God has done before you get out of bed. Before you fall asleep, think about five good things God has done.
I decided I should give myself the same piece of homework.
WOW. When you look for good, you’re always sure to find it.
The narrative of your life might be telling you a story that is different from the story of Scripture. In other words, the Bible talks about God’s goodness and God’s blessing, and all you’re experiencing is pain and turmoil.
Even in the most tragic situations I suspect there are nuggets of goodness all around us – if we decide to look for them.
The Psalms remind us of the goodness of God
“I said to the Lord, “You are my Lord; apart from you I have no good thing.” (Psalm 16:2, NIV)
“Remember not the sins of my youth and my rebellious ways; according to your love remember me, for you are good, O Lord. Good and upright is the Lord; therefore he instructs sinners in his ways.” (Psalm 25:7-8, NIV)
“Taste and see that the Lord is good; blessed is the man who takes refuge in him.” (Psalm 34:8, NIV)
“You are forgiving and good, O Lord, abounding in love to all who call to you.” (Psalm 86:5, NIV)
“Give thanks to the Lord, for he is good; his love endures forever.” (Psalm 107:1, NIV)
Active Thanksgiving and Lazy Boy Thanksgiving
I think we can respond to the blessings of God in one of two ways. First, we can sit back and soak it all in. We can bask in it. This is the Lazy Boy Thanksgiving. However, I think when we recognize the goodness of God, it should motivate us to action. It should motivate us to do something to express our thanksgiving – this is Active Thanksgiving.
Of course, I’m talking about a lifestyle – not a one day celebration. What are you doing with the good things God is giving? Basking or working? Receiving or giving? Taking or sharing?
I pray that this Thanksgiving you’ll enjoy your time with your friends and family. Most of all, I pray that God will remind you of His many blessings in your life.