More. More. More! How Limits and Boundaries Help Us Become Other Focused

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We’re a culture that likes to live without limits and boundaries.

We frequent all you can eat establishments.  We purchase unlimited phone plans.  We buy memberships that allow unlimited visits.

We don’t want anyone to say that’s enough because we’ll probably want more.

We want to live in a world without ceilings, without limits, and without boundaries.

That’s why most of us have bought into the lie that the more we make and the more we have, the happier we’ll be.  In our pace of living, we’ve come to believe that driving on the autobahn is always better than driving where there is a restricted speed limit.

What if we only answered every question with the word “more” – would life really be satisfying?

  • How much money do you need to make to be happy? More.
  • How much house is enough? More.
  • How many luxuries do you want to have? More.
  • How many new vehicles do you wish you owned? More.

In this world we want more, seek more, and pursue more.

That’s why there’s a stigma for those who use the word enough and live by a principle of enough.

If you have enough, you’re considered a person without drive.  A person without aspiration.  A person who is not reaching their full potential.

I guess we should be brave enough to ask ourselves – is it ever going to be enough?  Are you trying to fill a hole that can never be filled? Are you looking for the wrong things to fill your longing and emptiness?  We can have life, life in abundance, as long as we seek out the right filler and we learn to be content with other various items of life.

See, we’re all actors in a paradoxical divine drama.

Our God is a giver. He overflows with generosity. We each have been recipients of that overflow of love, kindness, and compassion.

Moreover, God calls us to be imitators since we’ve been made in his image.

He even gave his Son as an example of other-focused living.

The paradox is this – we’re not often very good at being other-focused.  We’re great at getting.  Great at collecting.  Great at taking care of ourselves.  Great at identifying our needs.

Yet, we’re not always stellar when it comes to being a conduit of the graciousness of our Father.

We become better people that spread the giving nature of the Father when we determine how much is enough for us.  When we know where our limits and boundaries are, we know when we need to look beyond ourselves.

More is not always the right answer.

Enough is the answer. Enough is the limit. Enough is the boundary.

Beyond that, we can become a giver like the Father who overflows with generosity.


  1. Cecilia says

    This is so good and it’s true we always want more.. So much media pushes the idea that I need what they are selling.
    My Daughter and Son In Law have been great examples in having enough and in reality they have little but I guess what they need. My Grandchildren are the happiest children I know. Three of them share one bedroom. They say “thank you” for the smallest things and are truly happy children.
    It’s a good place to be when you recognize how quickly the temporary gratification of any “must have” item wears off and gives in to the next “I want more” item appears. It’s good to be content .

  2. says

    It’s really a challenge to go against what the world is saying. To the idea that we need more to be happy. But hat is not the case. Because there is happiness and peace in contentment.

  3. says

    This is such an inspiring article! Thanks for posting it. I believe every individual was designed to make it big in life, to be able to reach his or her full potential, and end up overflowing in abundance.

    Even young adults should already begin saving and investing and learn to handle their finances responsibly so that they can enjoy life in the future and be able to bless others with their financial blessings.

    Money is not bad per se. Wanting to have more is good if you intend to help others and to share this blessing with the world. Too much love of money or the lack of it leads to greed.

    We should teach kids and teens to be responsible, generous, and loving. We should practice an abundant mentality instead of the scarcity mindset that most of us grew up to have.

    Of course, at the same time, it’s also essential to be able to determine our limitations so that we don’t end up greedily grabbing what’s not ours.

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